So why every person’s way of life, movement, different? Why is one being a smoker and another being in good health? Where is the difference? In fact, the outcome of a person’s life will go from good to bad – it all depends on the habits he has mastered. If one makes good habits – then his life will go to good, if he masters bad habits his life will go to bad.
We humans are nothing more than a set of habits we have mastered. Wendy Wood, a researcher at the University of California, Los Angeles, says: Half of what we do every day is actually our habit. Waking up, playing computer games, checking notifications on a mobile phone, driving a car, eating fast food, exercising, thinking about a loved one, etc., are all things we do habitually. The tasks that we perform repeatedly in the same situation or environment, Repeatedly, we become automatic in them.
We do not need conscious will or effort to do these things. We repeat the task so many times – we don’t have to pay any attention to it. As a result, we begin to do that habitually. Because doing these things over and over again makes our brain think these things are important and our subconscious mind stores these things in its storage.
When we are at the beginning of a certain behavior or work or habit, a neuron is created in our brain for this work. In the beginning these neurons are very light. The more times we repeat this particular behavior or work or habit 4/5 times a day for several weeks in a row, the more these neurons will become stronger and stronger than before. And the stronger the neurons of a particular behavior or work or habit, the less energy will be expended to perform this function of the brain. The brain does not understand what is good and what is bad for us.
Whatever we do – the brain thinks that repeated behaviors or actions are important. Now if it’s smoking, exercising, getting 8 hours of sleep, Masturbation will happen. Good and evil do not matter to the brain. So in order to change the habit, you have to do it again and again and to get rid of the bad habit, you have to reduce the amount of this bad habit little by little every day. Then the neurons of good habits will become stronger, the neurons of bad habits will gradually become lighter and at some point they will be lost from the brain, from the subconscious mind.
1. Be aware
From waking up every day to going to bed at night, we have to take note of everything we do. Even minor misconduct or incidents cannot be ruled out. If we observe and record our daily behaviors for 2/3 consecutive weeks like this – then we will understand what we are doing, which is our good habit and which is our bad habit. Then we can build good habits instead of bad ones. So the first thing to do to change habits is to know the current habits and be aware of what we are doing and what we should do.
2. Small steps
Our theme for changing habits will be – Just Getting 1% Better Each Day. Every day we have to start the work or behavior that we want to build as a habit little by little. And this seemingly insignificant task will bring us great results in a matter of days or months. With a little work or change, we got into a habit-forming system that gradually helped us to develop a strong habit. So remember- Tiny Change Make a Big Difference.
When we start taking small steps to create any new habit – after 2/3/4 days we lose interest without seeing any change, we can’t hold the motivation. Real Change Does Take Time !! So for real change you have to keep trying (even if it is a small amount or something). Since our brain likes repetition and thinks it is important, if we do not do any work over and over again, then that work will not become our habit. That is why the habit we want to master should be done continuously – very little like reading a book for 5 minutes, meditating for 3 minutes, walking for 10 minutes, reading a text book for 30 minutes, learning two English words every day. Walk will feel at the beginning! I hate this behavior, After a few days – Okey I can tolerate it and I can do that. 1 week, 2 weeks Even after 3 weeks it will feel very spontaneous and smooth to us. So we need to be persistent in changing any habit and move forward with small steps with patience.
So from the above discussion it is understood that our cherished habits which we have been repeating over and over again are responsible for our present condition, our happiness and sorrow. That is why all the habits that are good for us, necessary, must be turned into habits by repeating them over and over again.